So many times, when coaching leaders who are frustrated by some things going on in their company OR a team member who is not doing what they should be doing I take them through the following coaching model: “Control what you can control and Influence the rest as best you can.” Can you control yourself? The answer is always a quick – yes. So, let’s explore the main things we can control about ourselves:
You can Control:
- Your Attitude
- Your Actions
- Your Time – how you use it
- Your Reactions. People judge us more by our reactions than our actions. We judge ourselves by our intentions… there’s a difference.
Can you control others? NO…you cannot control others.
However, as a leader you can influence others either positive or negative or not at all. You can influence how others act, think and behave.
As a leader, you can influence the same things you can control about yourself.
- Attitude: Whatever level of optimism a leader has the rest of team will tend to operate at that level: high, medium, low.
- Actions: By providing good direction a leader can put their team members in more of the right actions and activities.
- Time: Through effective process, division of labor and accountability a leader can best utilize their team members time.
- Reactions: A leader can respond professionally, with poise, self-control and ask questions to fully understand the situation before responding.
A role model leader inspires, energizes, facilitates and develops by influencing their team in a positive manner. I hope you find this tip helpful and results in less frustration for you and enables you to lead at a higher level.
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